I am not able to do sadhana?

I don't get tears in the eyes
I get bored after some hours of bhajans/kirtan
I am lazy in doing sadhana
I am careless in doing sadhana

Tell me what should i do?
Ans: Remember in love there is no effort. You don't have love for God. That's why its becoming an effort for you and you have to "do" sadhana. you have to put "efforts" in doing roopdhyan.

OK I don't have love . you are correct. so what?

So just cry out to God, God give me love so that i can remember you without efforts. Ask and you shall get it.

But i try to cry and still i don't get those emotions. I do ask God to give me love. What to do?

If you cannot cry and that means you lack affinity towards God. So start with including God (your gopala or your thakur or your lala or whatever name you like in daily activities)

How do include him in daily activities?( Madhurya bhao will not be explained here)
1. How to include him while taking bath? ( Dasya bhao)
A. look after bath you will do aarti of him. this body belongs to him and its his property. So in service to him, we serve his property properly this body. Keep it clean and good.

B. Ask him to take bath quickly while you prepare breakfast ( Vatsalya bhao)

2. How to include him when i cook food ( lunch/dinner)? ( Vatsalya bhao )
See he is watching you as you cook. he is eagerly waiting for the food . he like a small child is even banging his thali on ground making noise and saying you give me food ma.. i am so hungry . i cannot wait. i want nice tasty food. ma please add some tasty masala as well.. like this u can include him


3. How to include him while traveling to office? ( Sakha bhao)
Dress him formally. make him wear suit and tie and shoes and what not. Best dress attire that can exist , make him wear. He is your office colleague and working with you and right now see ,he is in the cube just behind you.

See he is looking at you always and not working. scold him if needed so that he does some work and allow you to work as well. check occasionally if he is working or still looking at you and if you see him looking at you.. scold him or complain to Kishoriji(Radhaji). She will take care of him.

At lunch time, you and he can eat together. So call him and then open your lunch and have it together

Also you can go out for sometime along with him in lunch time.

You can ask him any problems you face during work. If he is not busy with his work, he will help you . but don't expect his help . He has lots of natak if you start giving him bhao ( importance).

Finally before going home, check if he is coming with you and wants to sit little longer. I would suggest you come along with him to home. you will have some company till home.

This way you include him

4. how to include him while cooking for dinner?
explained earlier

5. How to include him at sleep time? ( vatsalaya bhao)
tell thakur. u sleep now.both of us have to go to office tommorow morning. we will talk in morning now. if you want we can talk in dreams .. but pls sleep now. he likes to listen to story of RadhaKrishna. So to make your thakur sleep, tell him a few leelas from bhagavatam.

ok i understood how to include him .

Good. Now include him and after some time, once you have developed affinity with him 24 hrs , you can then start including yourself in his leelas directly which are described in bhagavatam.

Also remember the fact always.

Tell me what fact?

You will be dead after some time. No one will come to save you except Guru/Thakura. Whatever is yours , will be taken away from you. So you will be alone. Get used to this fact now. Think over it all the time. This job, this spouse, this child, this parents, this world, this body.. , this satsangi ( yes a satsangi is just another person who has just understood something about God in similar way like you that's it. nothing much. he is just a wave and will dissolve like others unless he realizes God and becomes a saint ).

am i all alone?

you are not alone. There is Thakura and Guru with you and ofcouse your karma sanskars are walking behind you like snakes. SO the fight at death has your biggest enemy as karma sanskars ( most of them are bad) and your only weapon against them is spiritual sanskars/your thakur/Guru. So ask thakur.. where will we go after i die.. Lets go where ever you like thakur we stayed all this life together now lets stay together where ever you like ..